tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post7553188068958514581..comments2023-10-30T07:08:09.860-07:00Comments on It's a Mystery: Dragon Skin NeededElspeth Futcherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10330102545384369360noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-71151353303118328032010-08-10T22:19:58.500-07:002010-08-10T22:19:58.500-07:00Well...I tried to live the link to the film clip, ...Well...I tried to live the link to the film clip, but I apparently screwed it up. Here it is:<br /><br />http://patriciastoltey.blogspot.com/2010/07/monday-morning-fun-from-ya-author-amy.htmlPatricia Stolteyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192369425956406122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-90662510670959447702010-08-10T22:18:19.243-07:002010-08-10T22:18:19.243-07:00Remember Amy Ryan's film clip about Amazon rev...Remember <a rel="nofollow">Amy Ryan's film clip about Amazon reviews?</a><br /><br />The criticism can hurt to the core, but the praise will come, and it will be all the sweeter because you suffered to get there.<br /><br /><a href="http://patriciastoltey.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Patricia</a>Patricia Stolteyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192369425956406122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-36957286249831514082010-08-10T12:10:56.151-07:002010-08-10T12:10:56.151-07:00Sorry I missed this post yesterday or I would have...Sorry I missed this post yesterday or I would have sent a cyber-hug your way. It is so hard not to let the negative criticism knock you down, but I like Elizabeth's approach. Don't take the positive or the negative so seriously that it affects your ability to carry on with the writing. Early on in my career a good friend and I made a pact that if we ever got so full of ourselves that our Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-73578424423009517222010-08-09T20:04:24.866-07:002010-08-09T20:04:24.866-07:00Venomous criticism can be so devastating. More tha...Venomous criticism can be so devastating. More than once, I've been paralyzed by harsh words about my writing, so I guess I need to go looking for a dragon skin, too. Although I don't like the idea of having to kick a dragon out of his skin. Maybe I'll just tame the dragon and have him flame anyone who comes along knocking my work...?<br /><br />I hope you can identify what (if Kithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238326701248982750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-48506989359570203862010-08-09T19:24:24.689-07:002010-08-09T19:24:24.689-07:00I can only recommend going back to read positive r...I can only recommend going back to read positive reactions to your writing and emails, etc, that build you back up.<br /><br />I tell myself to take the middle road with feedback--I don't totally believe the positive reviews I get...so I don't believe the really negative ones I get. But there's still that pang...Elizabeth Spann Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15625595247828274405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-71404447566789785782010-08-09T19:21:36.801-07:002010-08-09T19:21:36.801-07:00Criticism always hurts, but there's no excuse ...Criticism always hurts, but there's no excuse for anyone to say anything hurtful. Anyone who's not constructive isn't worth listening to. <br /><br />And ... it's ONE opinion, and it's NOT YOU they're criticizing. I know it doesn't help--and it never goes away. The best I can say is that the misery hangs around for shorter and shorter intervals as you continue. And youTerry Odellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610682530545306687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-69733383728873146872010-08-09T19:06:25.516-07:002010-08-09T19:06:25.516-07:00Remember, it's like you said - it's only o...Remember, it's like you said - it's only one person and chances are that person doesn't like anyone's writing but their own. Then take Jane's advice. I just pasts through mostly and may not always comment, but I really do enjoy your writing very much.<br /><br />Mason<br /><a href="http://www.masoncanyon.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Thoughts in Progress</a>Mason Canyonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10935307400882363560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-11218477632044352652010-08-09T16:04:18.481-07:002010-08-09T16:04:18.481-07:00If it's good criticism - that is, if what they...If it's good criticism - that is, if what they say is aimed at the work itself and not at me personally, and if there IS something that needs fixing, then I'm okay - after the shock passes, which it usually does rather quickly, if, as I said, the criticism is useful. If not, then send me that thicker skin!<br /><br />I just found you through KarenG (Coming Down the Mountain). Glad I did.<Ann Besthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14628616245339887301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-45225724700275210172010-08-09T15:27:55.403-07:002010-08-09T15:27:55.403-07:00Chant “I can’t please everyone all the time” as yo...Chant “I can’t please everyone all the time” as you pour a big glass of wine, then sit back and concentrate on the good things you’ve heard. I suggest going back to read some of your blogs, especially those with the sheep – they always make me laugh.<br /><br />However, if you do run across that thick skin, I’m hoping you’ll let me know…I realize handling criticism is often easier said than done.Jane Kennedy Suttonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12519340747761460017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-23307842575128512762010-08-09T12:29:01.471-07:002010-08-09T12:29:01.471-07:00When my first book came out, a memoir, it received...When my first book came out, a memoir, it received lots of very favorable reviews on Amazon - wonderful - but one day I stumbled across a blog where some woman had read my book and was just blasting it - not only calling it absolute rubbish, poorly written and worthless use of paper, but attacking me personally as a no-good bum of a worthless person. Took me a few days of deep breathing to get The Old Sillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09661188622348794193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-77304991970702115682010-08-09T12:23:37.188-07:002010-08-09T12:23:37.188-07:00I think some people are just mean and spiteful, pe...I think some people are just mean and spiteful, period. Think of them as naked little gremlins. (as you're puzzling that out, you forgot to feel hurt, didn't you?) :)Laura Enohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09982794146667832204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-21977143558612205442010-08-09T11:50:38.351-07:002010-08-09T11:50:38.351-07:00Yeah, it's always hard. Especially when you pu...Yeah, it's always hard. Especially when you put your heart and soul into your craft and it's like they pulled your heart out. I hope you find your new skin because I don't want you to give up.<br /><br />CDAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12160669603997465454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-52047420869121433132010-08-09T11:41:03.706-07:002010-08-09T11:41:03.706-07:00Oh, Elspeth, I'm so sorry you're hurting. ...Oh, Elspeth, I'm so sorry you're hurting. This thing we call writing is tough enough without all the rest that goes with it. Email me if I can help with anything. There's email info on my blog. Take a short time to nurse your wounds, then come out fighting like a champion.Carol Kilgorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168273312704732896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-35336887136783832612010-08-09T11:40:21.380-07:002010-08-09T11:40:21.380-07:00Karen; I've certainly never thought everything...Karen; I've certainly never thought everything I've written was Shakespeare-worthy but the last few days have knocked me about a bit. I'm trying to find my feet. Thanks for your words of wisdom.<br /><br />Margot; I did know that bit about Fred Astaire...and I know this is all part and parcel of the creative life. But geesh...<br /><br />Mary; What a kind thing to say, thank you! AsElspeth Futcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10330102545384369360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-70633469543871324542010-08-09T11:37:01.536-07:002010-08-09T11:37:01.536-07:00Good grief! After all your problems I spelled your...Good grief! After all your problems I spelled your name wrong -- Bad Keyboard!<br />Sorry.Mary@GigglesandGunshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07350818228268801008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-79710871411001840182010-08-09T11:35:57.839-07:002010-08-09T11:35:57.839-07:00Ok Espeth, so do need to call the gang together o...Ok Espeth, so do need to call the gang together or what? Hurting you will not be tolerated.<br />Oh and by the way, the skin in the illustration -- it looks like lemon slices. Is that stronger than dragon skin? I cut a lime this morning that was pretty tough. :>)Mary@GigglesandGunshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07350818228268801008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538744000429800248.post-68115742769748857932010-08-09T11:34:09.947-07:002010-08-09T11:34:09.947-07:00Elspeth - I know exactly how you feel. It's so...Elspeth - I know exactly how you feel. It's so hard to hear hard criticism. I hope it helps to know that all writers deal with this. So do other artists. For instance, a critic of Fred Astaire's RKO Pictures screen test said of Astaire: "Can't sing. Can't act. Balding. Can dance a little." <br /><br />You are a talented writer and creator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com